Gaining Self-Confidence
Featuring: Lisa Moore
Interview & video by: Catie Menke
Copy by: Shannon Holt
A lot of people believe that self-confidence is something you either have or you don’t, but I came across a quote the other day that read, “Low self-confidence is not a life sentence, it can be learned, practiced and mastered - just like any other skill,” that I thought put things into perspective a bit better.
Self-confidence doesn’t come easily for everyone, but that doesn’t mean we can’t all have it. It just means some of us need to make a point to practice it and spend a little bit more time nurturing and growing it.
Art Direction by: Catie Menke. Photograph by: Shannon Holt. Location: Biltmore Fashion Park.
Art Direction by: Catie Menke. Photograph by: Shannon Holt. Location: Biltmore Fashion Park.
In this episode of Brunch, Catie sat down with Lisa Moore of Lisa Moore Beauty, to discuss self-confidence. Moore, who has struggled with her own self-confidence, shares with us the steps she’s taken to gain her self-confidence and the importance of learning from our mistakes in order to do so.
Remove negative influences
There is a saying, “misery loves company,” that explains why this step is so important. People who are constantly miserable or negative love to make sure others around them feel the same way, so it makes sense that Moore’s first tip in building self-confidence in to remove the negative influences from your life.
Whether it is friends, family members or some random person you follow on social media, if they are bringing you down or making you feel bad about yourself, make it a point to remove them from your day-to-day life.
Building your self-confidence is hard enough and having negative influences in your life will only make things harder.
Stop comparing
In today’s world, where we are bombarded with images of people living their best life via social media, not comparing can be incredibly difficult. However, if we aren’t able to change our mindset when we find ourselves comparing, gaining self-confidence may never happen.
If you find yourself playing the comparison game, remind yourself that no one’s life is as perfect as they make it seem. Remind yourself of your worth and that life is not a competition. And lastly, if you find you are comparing yourself to the same person over and over, go back to Moore’s first tip and unfollow them.
Love yourself
It is really what self-confidence is all about. If you don’t love yourself, if you don’t know or see your worth, you will always rely on others, hoping they’ll make you feel good enough. But when relying on others doesn’t work, when they aren’t able to see your worth, that is when your self-confidence will take a hit.
When you love yourself, what others think, believe or make you feel won’t matter. You’ll know your worth, your values and you’ll believe in yourself.
Start spending time with yourself. Do things you truly enjoy, spend time with people who lift you up, exercise, etc. Learn what brings you joy and keep doing it.
Let go of the idea of perfectionism
Going back to Moore’s first tip on stop comparing, we also need to let go of the idea of perfectionism. We all know by now that perfect doesn’t exist, so why are we all still after it? As Moore puts it, “we are all perfectly imperfect.”
Striving for something that doesn’t exist means we will never be satisfied and if we are never satisfied with who we are or what we have, our self-confidence will never be able to grow.
Again, know your worth and remind yourself that no one, not a single person, is perfect or has a perfect life.
Do something everyday that is out of your comfort zone
Doing things outside of your comfort zone allows you to grow, it allows you to prove to yourself that you can do things you never thought you could. In those moments of growth and strength, that is where your self-confidence is cultivated.
Try something new, something you’ve always wanted to do. Take risks, have fun and know that everything you are doing is helping to teach you your worth, to love yourself, believe in yourself and therefore helping you to gain and grow your self-confidence.
Follow Lisa at
Website: lisamoorebeauty.com
Instagram: @lisa_moorebeauty
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